Relationships, as a spiritual path, are about transforming personal love into true love, as Polly will explain in this course: “True love is when you bear your heart and bear the other person’s heart. It is back and forth with vulnerability. We have an experience of being seen, heard and felt. We speak for ourselves and then we’re being heard by another. We need to listen mindfully to the other, remaining curious, develop a capacity to witness and be witnessed.”
This course explores love and what we can do to build and retain trust in close and intimate relationships. Polly Young-Eisendrath is a dynamic teacher who will take you through topics such as idealizing, disillusionment, enemy-making dynamics, acknowledging one’s limitations, dealing with conflict, engaging in real dialogue, speaking up for oneself, listening mindfully and remaining curious, and accepting ourselves and other(s).
This is an on demand class. The recordings will be placed into your account at once.
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Create an environment in which your love can become True Love and develop an intimacy based on equality, mutuality, reciprocity.
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Reduce the suffering in your own life, and you want to help others/clients to reduce their suffering.
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Understand the drivers behind communication challenges. Develop your ability to apply mindfulness skills to your daily communication, especially with your loved ones.
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Help others improve their relationships.
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Explain the complexity of seeing/hearing/feeling in the human “snow globe” of self.
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Speak, listen, and respond using the skills of Real Dialogue and break the cycle of repetitive conflicts through the application of mindfulness practices.
Class 1. Introduction
The introductory class looks at the challenges we face in close relationships. It explores the difficulties that we come across and the underlying dynamics that run the relationships.
Class 2. True Love
The second class addresses the movement from falling in love to the creation of an environment in which your love can become ‘true love’. True love is familiar and mysterious. This is also in the nature of spiritual teachings. To get there, we need to move beyond disillusionment.
Class 3. Snow Globe of our Subjectivity
This class deals with the transformation of disillusionment into the experience of being genuinely interested in the other person. We are all enclosed in our own subjectivity (what Polly calls a ‘snow globe’) and that makes it difficult to get along with each other. True Love requires seeing, feeling, and knowing your own ‘need for an enemy’ in the specifics of your own emotional patterns and narratives. To unpack this, we need to engage in real dialogue with each other.
Class 4. Real Dialogue: Speaking for Yourself & Listening Mindfully
In the fourth class, Polly gets into the skills we need to be able to step back from emotional threat levels and our drive to control the people we love. Polly shares what we can do to build and retain trust in our close and intimate relationships. It requires the skills of speaking for yourself, listening mindfully, and remaining curious.
Class 5. Real Dialogue: Mindful Witnessing
In this fifth class, Polly will offer ways to refine the ability to sustain trust over time, being able to deal with your own subjective reactivity, and remaining curious with your partner and other aspects of your life. The focus of this class is the exploration of the six domains of your ‘snow globe’ and the secret of love.
Class 6. Last Class (Q&A)
In this last class, participants were invited to share their learnings, and engage in a conversation on relationship as a spiritual path, and asked questions around applying the course learnings.
